Happy Birthday, Tom!

Tom had a birthday! He is not getting old. He is just the right age for his age. :) I made a cake that looked like a grill in honor of our love of grilling. He is amazing. I love my husband! (He's not really turning 8; we added the rest of the candles later.)

Let Me Sum Up

I started school. Awww 1st grade. . . It's school all right. I have some really wonderful helpers: a paraprofessional, and a parent volunteer. They have done so much of the things I never get to. That's nice because I don't feel quite as on my game as I would like to. I'm sure I'll get better as the year goes on. Part of me wants to be home taking care of a baby and not teaching, but I'm doing my best.
We have good friends visiting us, and that has been fun.
I've been eating a lot of tomatoes from our garden. Yum! The tomato plants have produced more than I expected. Tom and I tried making salsa for the first time. It was a success. We are so good. No wonder we were the iron chefs of Park City. Speaking of Iron Chef, our cable is gone. I miss the Food Network. Wouldn't it be nice if you could pay just a small fee and get just the few channels that you want? TV is too expensive.
Tom and I are looking into buying a house/condo. It's weird to think that just a few months ago we were both looking at unemployment and moving back in with my parents. Our life sure changed fast. Now we're both working and looking at changing our rent to a mortgage payment. In many ways we have been blessed.
One of my good friends came back from her mission, and we got together and did art. It was so therapeutic for me. I am determined to do it more often. Over the summer (before Max was born) I started doing The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron with my mom and my sister. I think I will start that again soon. I think sometimes I drop important things when they are really the most important. I get busy and neglect my hobbies when they would help me to relax. I get busy and I stop exercising regularly when exercise would help me stay healthy and happy. I should get better at that.

The Best Steak I Ever Ate

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So, I've come to an interesting conclusion. I've decided that the best steak that I've ever had actually comes from The Olive Garden. Really, it's more like steak medallions, but they're probably the most super-delicious beef I've ever had. They're grilled perfectly on the outside and nice and pink on the inside. Whatever the heck they marinade that stuff with is simply heavenly.


Now, you might start to question how it is that the restaurant chain could possibly have the best steak I've ever tasted in my life. It was kind of a shocker to me as well. I mean, for goodness sake, I've eaten a $40 steak before (fun/funny story). Trust me, it wasn't that good in comparison. There's just something about the way they prepare anything with those little steak medallions that makes my mouth automatically open to shove another piece in, even if my stomach tells me I'm going to regret it shortly thereafter. I don't care if I explode, so long as I have a piece of that meat in my mouth.

Just thought I'd let everyone know. Go. Eat. Be amazed.

Real Life

So, I guess Lovetta and I are entering a point that a lot people tend to think of as "real life." And I'm not just talking about what we've gone through with Max (though that surely makes the impact of life on this planet quite real). I'm more talking about the fact that we've both graduated from college and are working at jobs we thoroughly enjoy.

We have two incomes and we're young adults. What should we do with all of this money? Now, that statement should be taken with a grain of salt; Lovetta is a teacher, and I make less than a teacher does. Our incomes are not spectacular, but they now exceed what we pay out every month in our bills. There's a whole world of possibilities before us.

Naturally, the first thing I want to do with this money is buy an iPhone. I've been wanting one ever since they were first released, but honestly, the data plans are killer on a college budget if you don't have someone subsidizing the plan you've purchased. That's not as much of an issue now, though I must admit that after some number crunching, my inner poor college student still cringes at the bill.

They always said that an Apple was the forbidden fruit...

Lovetta, ever the saver that she is, then brings up the good point that now would be as good a time as any to start saving for a down payment on a house. I happen to agree with her; the better the down payment you get, the better the monthly payment you get after. We're certainly in a good position to do some saving. Speaking of saving, another thing we've been wanting to do since the day we got married was start doing some long-term investing. Again, now's as good a time as any to start contributing to some sort of retirement mutual fund or some such.

Still, there are a few toys, gadgets, furniture items, etc. that I feel like we've deprived ourselves of because we simply couldn't fit them into our budget. It's also important to save while you have the wherewithal to save. How do you balance the two? How do you know exactly what to aim for in your long-term savings goals without going over for rainy day funds or entertainment type things?

I think that "growing up" or "entering real life" really is just code for "more confused than you were before" or "have more questions than you have answers."

Little Max

Maximo Thomas was born on July 3, 2010. He lived for about 2 hours surrounded by loving friends and family. Please enjoy this slideshow created by a wonderful photographer from an organization called Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep.

EDIT: The video wasn't working properly after uploading to YouTube, so now you will have to click on this link in order to see it. Sorry!

He is so beautiful, isn't he? Look at his thick, black, curly hair. And his perfect big lips. And his chubby cheeks and double chin. Look at those little baby feet. Little baby toes. Little baby fingers. Little baby fingernails. While he was alive, he coughed a few times, grabbed, kicked, and opened one eye.

He was a little less chubby at the viewing. I tucked in the blanket and closed the coffin lid for my little boy. I think that is the saddest thing I've ever had to do.

I think you can sometimes tell a lot about what is going on in a person's life by studying their kitchen table. I think mine says a lot right now.


People have been very kind and sympathetic. We have a stack of cards. The flowers make my house smell nice. The box of tissues is very important. That manila envelope has the death records that we haven't put away yet. If you look closely, you may notice the scriptures behind the small vase of orange flowers. The gospel does provide some comfort. Speaking of comfort, those chocolate covered almonds are pretty comforting as well!

In other news, I finished that pastel piece. Here is the finished product.


And we have a beautiful bell pepper growing!

Thank you for all your love, support, and prayers.

Bad News First; Good News Last

So, it's been a while since we last updated you all on what's happening with the baby, our lives, etc. Here's what's been happening.

On the baby. We've been going to the doctor's office pretty regularly for the last month. We're scheduled to do something pretty much every week from now until the baby comes, so we're making a lot of trips to Salt Lake. Since our last post, things have worsened. The baby has developed something called hydrops fetalis, which essentially means that he is collecting fluids in and around vital organs in his body (in his case: lungs, heart, brain, skin, kidneys). This fluid doesn't allow for the proper development of those organs, thus making them function poorly. Since his organs aren't functioning properly, Lovetta has developed something called polyhydramnios (big fancy word for too much amniotic fluid). Essentially, she's gotten so big that she looks like she's ready to have twins (noting that we still technically have about 2 months to go for just one baby).

Between the hypertrophic cardiomyopathy and the hydrops, the baby is not expected to live very long. The doctors have told us that because Lovetta is getting so big, the odds for premature labor are extremely high. So, now we can throw "premature" on top of everything else. It doesn't look good :( Because of this we've decided to opt out of some of the interventions (none of which seem like they would be any kind of permanent solution) and instead are planning just to spend as much time with him that we can without tubes and wires all over him.

When we found out that he was likely to die shortly after birth, Primary Children's set us up to meet with a group of people in palliative care called the Rainbow Kids. It was a collection of people at the hospital focused on helping people in our situation make the best out of the time that we have with our children. They helped us with things like our Birth Plan and really helped us to try and refocus our mindset on the situation. It's helped a lot, but there are days (like today for me) where it still is especially difficult.

In somewhat related news, we decided to name our baby Max :D Maximo Thomas, in fact. Maximo is after my grandfather and Thomas is, well, after me. We both really like the name a lot.

On the garden front, we have a few of our first fruits!! We have 3 pea pods and 1 little tomato :D Some of our plants aren't doing as well as we would like due to some surprise weather. But others seem to be doing just fine and we're hopeful for a good harvest later in the season.

This is what your garden looks like in June when you plant in Utah. *shakes fist*

As far as jobs go, I'm happy to say that both Lovetta and I will be employed for next year! Lovetta was offered a position back at her school through a fortunate set of circumstances after we had discovered that it wouldn't be likely for us to have a baby come the new school year. It was a very kind offer and we're glad to have it! For me, I'm back working at BYU in a more supervising role than what I had before. It's part-time for now, but if you keep your fingers crossed, I might be able to get some full-time work there in the future. It's a great job working with a lot of people I really enjoy, so I couldn't ask for better. We've been truly blessed lately as far as work is concerned.

Speaking of work, Lovetta has started working on a new art project. It's a pastel piece of our neighbor's absolutely adorable little baby girl. Have a looksee:

Isn't that awesome?

Silver Lining

There are a lot of not-so-good things happening right now, but for this post I am ignoring all of them and giving you only good things. Here is my top 10.

1. Tom and I have been married for 3 wonderful years (as of Sunday.) We celebrated by going to Tucanos and eating lots of delicious meat and grilled pineapple. Mmmmm... my favorite is the garlic sirloin and beef brisket.
   
2. I have been given a lot of flowers recently: one from a friend, one from relatives, and one for helping with a play at school.
3. My mom bought me 2 new shirts, and a friend gave me a new shirt. Before, I only had 2 maternity shirts. Now I have a total of 5 shirts that actually fit my belly.
   
4. Tom and I have a delicious chewy chocolate chip cookie recipe that we made again.
   
5. I can wear contacts again. The infection in my eyeballs is gone.
   
6. I can still exercise. I am not on bed rest.
   
7. I can still go to work, and I like my job. Overall, it makes me feel fulfilled and successful.
   
8. School ends this week.
9. The weather started to warm up, and Tom has been walking me to school in the morning. We went on a walk yesterday and saw the most beautiful rainbows. We could see two of them, and one stretched all the way across the sky.
   
10. I successfully cut my toenails the other day. (You would not believe how difficult that can be.)
    

I was pushing it a little with number 10, but there it is.